We are currently going through the series Love & Respect as a couples' group in our church. As you might guess from the title, the main thrust of the teaching is how women are wired to want and need love...in whatever form that means for each individual woman. However, it also is putting forth that what men need even more than feeling loved it to feel respected and admired. I just had to laugh out loud to see a prime example of this while we were at the beach last week.
Since Luke didn't want to have anything to do with going in the ocean, he played quite contentedly in the sand all day. As soon as we'd arrive at the beach each day he would say "Dad, help me dig a big hole!" So Todd would dutifully dig deep into the sand for him, until they hit water. Then Luke was happy as a clam for the rest of the day. Well, one afternoon as Luke sat digging in the sand, a little girl walked by on her way to the water. She stopped and looked at the enormous hole Luke was in and said to him "Is that your hole?" He answered, somewhat tentatively "Yes." She smiled and said "Wow." and then walked away. That was it, just "wow". However, I could fairly see Luke's chest puff out, and he scrambled out of the hole to come relay the story to me. He beamed with pride as he said "She said 'wow'!" As he climbed back into the hole, he commented "I wish the Glick girls were here to see it..."
I just had to laugh at the prime example of the very thing we'd been talking about in our group! Very interesting.